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17 Nov 2004

I have to face my ex's girlfriend for the first time since we've been divorced (17 months ago). We can't stand one another. How do I go about handling this? (He is still very attracted to me, which she knows). But I'll never be able to take him back after things he's done and the person he's become, eventhough I do still have feelings for him. I am scared of how I'll react when I see them together and I'm scared she goes out of her way to be all over him throughout the day. My daughter (8) will also be there, and she is not very happy that her dad's taking his girlfriend. She reacons he should know that it will hurt me and needn't take her with. Please tell me how one becomes strong from within, in three days... I am stressed beyond limits...
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01 Jan 0001

(",), Is this a message from the Artist Formerly Known as Prince ? The nickname looks familiar !
Surely, though you don't need to like her, you shouldn't, after all your experience in life, have too much difficulty in simply being polite to her ? And remember, that being polite may disappoint her if she's looking for conflict, and gives him and her no excuse to think the less of you ; while being aggressive is no use at all.
So, you expect her to somewhat rub your nose in the new relationship by climbing all over him ? Well, expect it, so if it happens, it can't upset you, as you can simply say to yourself, "well, there's what expected --- and she's hoping this'll upset me, and I won't allow that to happen, so all her efforts will be wasted. "
You will be strong enough to manage this, and after this first encounter, any further encounters, if they happen, won't have this power to fluster you.
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