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25 Nov 2005

Family
My inlaws were murdered in 2002, and I have never gotton over it, they were amongst the best things that could ever and did ever happen to me.

My problem is I am now 7 months pregnant, and can't stop thinking about all the things they would have done for the little one, and all the support they would have given us, it's a constant reminder when people as me about great grand parents and In-Laws (eg. How they feel about the pregnancy). It's really making things incredibly tough on me and not to mention hubby.

I know people don't mean to be insensitive, but how do I cope with these questions without ending up bawling my eyes in the end, and getting everyone else around me feeling guilty and upset?

I don't want this ruling my life, I am constantly depressed because of this. Will I ever get over it?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hello Gen,
Sounds like a form of distorted and chronic grief,. which deserves some serious counselling, with a counsellor experienced in handling grief problems.
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