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18 Jul 2008

Fed-up
A while back I wrote about my husband that I caught out cheating, only talking on the phone, but cheating is cheating. Well, I thought we worked things out, however. This weekend he smsed someone again. Last night I asked him about it. Denied it again and eventually told me who she was. Just friends. He didn’ t want to tell me about because of what happened awhile back. Explanation this time was that person you talk to just to vent?!?! We talked it out, calmly again and I think I am fine with the explanation. My problem is, why why why? I am nice looking, very “ active”  so there should not be anything he isn’ t getting. Why lie about it again? I cannot baby sit him all the time. Every time I confront him about it, I am closing another door and maybe he just becomes more careful, talking about deleting numbers and sms’ s? I even asked him if we should go for a HIV test? I don’ t want to think anymore, is it too much to ask just to be happily married with no shit or other woman in the picture all the time. Maybe I should also just get someone to vent too and give him some of his own medicine. Put him in that position?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

You seem to concentrate on him "getting" enough sexually --- is he getting enough in the sense of a sympathetic ear, a pal to talk things over with ? Instead of insisting that "talking is cheating", why not take on the challenge of being the best one for him to want to talk with ? <br>And why not, both of you, get inviolved in marriage counselling ? And do read carefully Lolo's useful contribution
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