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12 Jul 2005

feel let down
im in such a time of need and there is only one person I trust to talk to, my counsellor and she cancelled our appointment today. I dont know why but I am so mad and angry. I really needed help, I know I had to get better on my own but its just my security, and she let me down when all friends already had. Im battling on my own and was looking forward to telling her my progress, now I feel like I have no one to share anything with, becasue I cant share these mad issues with anyone else
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01 Jan 0001

Sorry to hear this, K, but it happens. We are aware, as counsllors, that we can become very important to the people we work with, and that cancellations, etc., can be very upsetting to them. That's why a wise counsellor tries to encourage you not to make them the ONLY person you trust, or the only person you will talk frankly to.
Yes, it's very annoying, and one would hope that it was not done frivolously, but for a very good reason. Maybe she was taken ill, her car broke down, a family member was in trouble and urgently needed her. One would expect it to have been some sort of emergency because the cancellation was apparently done rather late. I would expect that she or her office ought to try to give you the earliest possible new, replacement appointment now.
Now don't let this disappointment spoil anything. Keep up and extend the progress you have already made, so you will have even more to tell her about when next you DO meet. And you've not been entirely on your own, and you do have people to share with --- right here on the forum, where people have noticed and appreciated the significant progress you have managed to make this week.
It can be a vulnerability some of us have, that when something l ike this happens, for good reasons not involving us, we risk feeling excessively abandoned and angry, and allow ourselves to spoil the progresss we've already made, and we may find it more difficult than do some other people, to get the incident into perspective, as a disappointment, but not a disaster.
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