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21 Jul 2008

Feeling guilty after dumping him
Hi guys,

CS need not read or respond.

Last week I went to a first " date"  with a guy - lunch. On Saturday we met again and he is already talking about marriage and kids - and he is not joking. I am 29 he is in his early 50s. He has 5 children, the eldest is 27, and he wants more. He likes a big family and he is worried that age is not on his side.

On Saturday I am going to a course from 9am to 1pm and I was going to see him after the course. He says he can' t wait that long, he is coming with me to the course. He says he can' t cope without me. He sends me messages about going as a family to India and he gets upset that I am not feeling the same way and that I take too long to respond to his messages.

I just met him, I don' t even like him yet and I am feeling so smothered right now. I have sent him an email saying I cannot see him anymore. I was not rude or anything. But now I am feeling so so guilty to push him away. Is the email a bad way to do it - impersonal? I just cannot stand to see him anymore.

I always feel very guilty after things like this - even if I was not rude.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

He sounds rather desperate, doesn't he ? Isn't this FAR too early within any relationship for him to be talking of marriage ? Be very wary --- there has to be something wrong for him to be so desperate
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