Lulu, stepchildren can be the biggest cause of drama if we allow them to get to us. Anyway I just wanted you to know that I understand, I have 3 step children, one (a girl 16) lives with us, I'm getting closer to her but when her brother comes to us every 2nd week-end I want to throttle the brat!!! He leaves things lying around, hardly greets, oh I could go on. Actually the whole thing has depressed me so much I'm going back to the shrink tomorrow. Just know you are not alone!!