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12 Nov 2004

Forget it???
I have recently broken up with my boyfriend, as I could not see a future for us as a couple. However we have been able to remain friends, this is not easy as the relationship was an intimate one, as well as the fact that it has been my first of this kind. There is always the possibility of wanting to comfort each other and slip back into the relationship.

His home life is terribly unhappy and does not have anyone who cares for him.
He has no-one to confide in, and this has been from a very young age. He has always told me that I am all he has, and he does not want anyone to feel sorry for him. No-one has ever given him a chance, and I feel like I am giving up in a way by not pursuing the friendship. I am also aware that I am not responsible for him, but I too am human and have been taught not to turn away on someone. I would also like to remain his friend.

Would you suggest totally breaking up or keeping the friendship?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I can't answer one way or the other, at this distance. Breaking up a more intimate relationship is not usually"turning on someone" or "turning away" --- it may be kinder for both of you than a miserable and fraught relationship. Can you remain "just friends" with him, without getting drawn further in ? And vice versa ?
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