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29 Nov 2005

Forgiveness: FIO & Friend
Jare van berou is nodig om één sonde in die oë van mense uit te wis; maar één traan van berou is vir God genoeg – Alexander Pope

The Bible also tells us that forgiveness brings peace.

BUT, and this is the big BUT - as in my case you talk to the other party and wife and beg to save the marriage and especially this other one just ignores you, you decide it is the right thing if only for yourself, to forgive and then get kicked in the teeth again and again by this other one.

The reason I quoted Mr Pope is that I did shed that tear before God- but it is so true that what I did still gets thrown at me as the excuse for what is happening now. I never lifted my hands to her, never swore, was always the same, no moods, gentleman even during my drinking days which stopped 10 years ago. I can go on and on but it may becometoo boring.

I think it is over.

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Suely the aim of forgiveness is to free yourself from the bitterness that ties you to the person who harmed you, and from felings of revenge --- it should not be done in such a way as to encourage or enable the other person to hurt you or others, again.
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