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13 Jul 2005

Forgiving myself...
Dear Cybershrink. My sister asked your advice about 10 days ago, about my situation with extreme feelings of guilt (having had an affair 10 years ago), having let go of myself, crying non stop etc. etc.

My sister printed the posting and gave it to me. I made an appointment with a psychologist, been referred to a psychiatrist and am now taking anti depressants and going for counselling. I feel human again, and realise it's time that I forgive myself for all the pain I've caused others, 'cause they seem to have carried on with their lives, yet I'm the one who cannot forgive myself. I've forgiven the man who raped me 20 years ago, I've forgiven my dad for emotional abuse and neglect, I've forgiven so many people so many things, yet I cannot forgive myself for having had an affair.

This is just to thank you for your good advice, it was a true wake up call for me. I will be in touch and am feeling positive that I will eventually forgive myself and live a full life again. Thank you!!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Concerned's Sister,
Thank you so much for your message and for your really good news ! Congratulations on your excellent good sense and the progres you have begun to make. Now forgive yourself for all the pain you have needlessly caused to yourself, too. You deserve it.
All of us make mistakes ; the real challenge is to try to make new mistakes ; to learn from and not repeat the old ones.
We look forward to hearing more about your progress as it continues.
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