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24 Jul 2008

friend cant stop crying
she locks herself in the office and cries and the same is happening at her flat.

she is currently going out with guy from tanzania and last week she received some bad news. the friend to the tanzanian guy told her that the guy is married.

she feels so betrayed and is asking how can her boyfriend lie to her. it is now the 8month that they are together.

i was always suspicious about her boyfriend, cos on weekends he is not available and had all sorts of excuses.

now she wants me to help track down the wife so that she can tell her the whole story. is this worth it?

the boyfriend was always telling her that he lives with his daughter only and that him and the mum are not together anymore. and that he left her in tanzania.

and she never visited him because the boyfriend said it would not be good for the daughter, since she is still small (10yrs). so they only met at public places.

she is determined to hire a private investigator to help. how do i support her?

she tells me the boyfriend is overseas on work matters for the week.

if i see him, i just give him a " clap"  on his face

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Why should she expect you to track down anyone's wife ? If she wants to contact his wife, she'd be entitled to do so. And shouldn't women be cautious about forming relationships with men from other countries unless they can be sure they are not married already ? YOu should leave him alone, and let her sort out the problem she chose to get into
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