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16 Jul 2008

FRIEND ON FACEBOOK
I recently made contact with an old friend (male) on Facebook - I lost contact with him when I divorced my first husband and this guy had problems in his own life etc. He is now divorced and lives in another province. Ever since I have made contact with him, I cannot stop thinking about this man - I even had a dream about him and I cannot wait for his response to my messages. I have known him since I was 15 yrs old (I am now 45 and he is 44) so one can say it's a lifetime that we've known each other. We were close as friends at school and after that. I am however married and feel that it is wrong to have these feelings of being excited about his messages etc. Is it maybe because I so yearn for the life I had before (obviously nothing can change and we cannot revert back to what we had previously as life changes and we all move on!!!) or is there something lacking in my life? I rarely though about this man until I made contact on Facebook and now I cannot stop thinking about him. There was never any "romantic" feelings between us when we were younger, yet I just have a feeling for this man that I cannot explain!?? Help please - I don't understand what's happening here! I saw his photograph on Facebook and I keep going back to just have a look at him??!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I strongly suspect that Facebook causes many more problems than it solves. You're probably right that the attraction here isnt this actual guy ( who you haven't properly met now ) but what he represents about happy days in the past. I totally agree with Maria. Leave Facebook alone, and invest time in your own marriage, perhaps with the aid of a marriage counsellor.
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