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04 Apr 2006

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Hi
I've been going out with this guy without knowing that he is married they were just separated, and now i'm pregnant with his child and i refuse to terminate because of my religoin and wish he would leave me alone, am i bieng unfair to this unborn child? because i don't want to continue this beacause he lied at first
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Some people might be eager to scold you, but really, never assume a guy is unmarried unless you can be sure of it --- and don't allow yourself to get pregnant by a man you don't know and without a permanent relationship --- doing so is never fair to the child. OK, he was less than honest with you, but did he tell you they were divorced or that he was unmarried, or just not tell you that he was married and separated. Of course you should have the child's interests at ehart. What is his position ? Is he now divorced ? Does he want to marry you ? Does he want to help care for the chuild ? If the child has a real posibility of having him as an active father, would that not perhaps be good for the child ? And what of maintenance ? And, if it is inded his child, I don't think you are nowadays allowed to refuse him access to the child. Think all this through, maybe with the help of a counsellor, before making final decisions
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