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27 Feb 2004

Gee asb advies
Dir voel of alles te veel word en ek is alleen in die wereld. Alles gaan om geld en die skuld eisers. Ons het n paar maande gelede van n avder provinsie af na Pta getrek en ek wens alles kan nou net reg kom. Ons uitgawes is meer as ons inkomste. Die kinders 3 en 5 verstaan darem nou en dan as daar nie geld vir iets is nie.

Ek weet ek moet help kry. Ek koester al hoe meer negatiewe gedagtes, maar dan dink ek aan my kinders. Soms wonder ek of iemand anders vir hulle n beter lewe kan gee as ek nie meer die dag hier is nie.

Kan ek iewers hulp gratis kry in die pta omgewing. Ek sal dit wardeur as iemand my n nommer kan gee of n adres.

Thanks n million
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Hartseer,
YOU are the greatest treasure your children have, so look after it ( yourself ) for them. Maybe your bank manager can provide someone in the bank who can discuss your purely financial problems and advise on options for helping to sort them out. It's never useful for those to whom you owe money to be too harsh with you --- because they ought to realise that they need you alive and well to continue to earn money, or they can get nothing back at all ; and that it's better for them to help you to help them, and to accept no payments until you get on your feet again, or at least to accept low payments for the time being.
Check whether the law School's at UNISA and Univ or Pretoria have a free law clinic, as they should, who could advise you on legal aspects of your situation, too.
And look at what savings can be made at present --- and explain things , so the kids can understand. There are too many children who are starving --- so loved kids don't NEED new computer games or CDs, or fastfood, or cellphones, or whatever. Better to live simply for the time being, so that things can be more likely to get better later on.
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