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03 Feb 2004

Girlfriends past is a problem
My current girlfriend lost her boyfriend 2 years ago due to an accident. We have been together 3 months now. She told me that she has only once loved someone and that she cant open her hart to me. She now want's to break of the relasionship. She says that she feel crowded and that she can't give anything to me.

I want to help her, even if it means only being friends.
I want to help her to love and trust again.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Bulldog,
it sounds as if she is still too wrapped up in her pevious relationship and in ongoing grief, to be able to truly get involved in a new relationship. By being a good friend, you can surely be helpful --- and encourage her to see a counsellor for grief counselling, as by 2 years she should have moved beyond this stage of being exclusively tied up in the relationship with her friend who died.
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