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19 Nov 2004

g*tvol
I build and sell about 150 simplexes a year. Inevitably I have clients who are not happy and get personal.They think I am the worst thing on earth. The agents think I am a low down human. My lawyer is forever on holiday and thinks I do not deserve the service I pay for. My wife finds it better to read than to carress me. In 20yrs of marriage we have never had morning sex and sex happened when lunar eclipses took place. She has on various occasions told me I am a pervert, ugly, sh*t parent etc etc.Daily I have to motivate work people, beg council people, grovel on the ground in front of my professional team to get them to do their work. I have 400 letting properties which I own and must control, a women running the renting office(my developments and letting properties are 300km apart) that stole her own furniture for insurance purposes and already stole money from my business. My wife used to control that portfolio. I pushed her out and took over to stop her blocking me to get insight into that section and I forced iti nto profits. Anyway, suicide is not an option as I have a son crippled in a car accident(not my fault) and he needs me and adores me. My self esteem is ultra sh*t. I must think 10x before I speak or instruct people so as not to offend them. To make it worse I do not trust or believe anybody(including a shrink) so cannot be helped. I am trapped, g*tvol and NAFI. I know I carry on and on with this but am frustrated
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear Hubbie,
Sad tale. At least it's lunar eclipses, and not solar eclipses you need to wait for. I agree that suicide is not, and should not be considered an option, as you obvously deserve a whole lot more than that. Yes, frustrating it must be. You cannot be helped if you believe that you cannot be helped. But if you want to find your way out of this frustrating impasse, you can --- with an appropriate guide. You don't have to trust the shrink to know everything and especially not to know exactly what you ought to do and to take control over you --- but he/she WILL be able to have expertise in helping YOU to find, productively, what you need to do. If you were lost in a jungle, you'd welcome a guide who knew the territory round there. The same here. Pick a good local guide to mental territory, to work with you, on finding your personal solutions. This CAN be solved, if you will allow this to happen.
You have a great son, and obviously excellent business skills ( even if you perhaps carry too much of the burden yourself ).
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