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15 Dec 2004

Handling Gf's Sexual experience
I've been living with my gf for more than a year..she is 8 years older than me, and there is an experience gap. We have a great relationship, but sometimes it bothers me about her past experiences. When I met her I was a virgin and she's been the only woman I've ever slept but I haven't told her this feels a bit embarrasing. She on the other hand has had relationships with 6 other guys and sometimes talks about them a lot and sometimes mentions the things they got up too. I know I shouldn't let her past bother me but no matter how much I try it does..sometimes I think it just doesn't seem fare...she has bench marks to base our relationship or sexual experiences on...and I have nothing. I'm in love with her but then again how do I know if its real because she's the only gf I've ever had. The one time she told me that she had a f**k buddy relationship with a friend, this was obviously before we met, I mean I didn't even know this type of relationship exists. She does tell me that I'm the best bf she's ever had and if it wasn't for the others she wouldn't be who she is today.
|'m just worried that if it may get to the point of marriage, I will still have regrets of just going out with only one woman my entire life..
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, S, with an age gap of 8 years, there was room for more experiences. Isn't the main problem, though, the conclusions you draw from all this ? So you were a virgin ? We could do with a few more virgin's around --- there's nothing wrong with that. I wonder what's her motivation in talking about the other men, though, and in telling you about some of what they used to get up to --- maybe she's hinting that she'd like you to experiment a little more ? Why not try talking more directly about this, with her ?
And if, after her more extensive experience with other men, she still feels that you're the best bf she's had, shouldn't you feel complimented rather than jealous ? And she has chosen to remain with you, and not return to the other guys, so you must be doing rather a lot right ?
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