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24 Jul 2008

Hard Decision

Hey CS , how are u , I heard from the grapevine that u have a new kitty ???

I have had to make a rather difficult decision , my son and his girlfriend and the baby ?? well .... living where we do it was almost impossible for them to find decent jobs .. we are too far from " civilization"  , and my son especially seemed to think that by living with mommy he didnt have to do much .. mommy will provide and make their decsions for them .....

Well sadly it doesnt work that way .. and his GF was getting quite desperate with him.

I told them yesterday im sending them back to Jo' burg .... with a few conditions .

I will help financially until they find decent jobs , they will both go to couples counselling and parenting classes , and I have made his GF promise me that they will start looking for their own place ASAP ...and start there lives like all young couples do .

Neither of them are functioning adults and parents ... but now they WILL HAVE to learn ..others have done it .. they can .. and by having them here with us , we arent helping them at all really.

If they dont go for counselling then im washing my hands of the pair of them .

We have provided the support and skills for them , we have gotten my son stabilised on meds , and his GF onto antidepressants now its their turn.

Its sad... but thats life I suppose ...one can only do so much
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Yes, new kitty, now estimated 14 weeks old, who is busy training me. Small head, graceful, grey lady.
On your side, sounds like a sensible decision --- let's hope it all works out. This lad seems intermittently to show real potential, maybe needs the challenge to bring it out. Its important to be helpful and supportive, but beyond a hard-to-define point, it becomes counter-productive.
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