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09 Nov 2006

He lied to me
Good morning all. Boy where do i start now. Well me and my BF has been together for some 16 months. When i met him and things started to happen his ex called him and said she's preggies. Well it was a bit impossible coz we've been together, however, later on i found out that she was really preggies. i asked him and promised me high and low it's not his child. He has a child with her, but the 2nd child wasn't his. Well she got the baby and according to my calculations it could not have been my his child as the child was born too late, coz we were already together when she conceived. Well i kinda forgot about it, but last night he ADMITTED after how long that it is his child and yes he was with her and with me. Well in the interim i also fell pregnant and also had a baby from this man. The 2 children are a few months apart. Heaven i wanted to die, well i still want to die. How could he do this to me. How do go on as if everything is fine, how can i forgive him, where do i start. How many times is he still gonna lie to me. I feel his taking me for a ride and his taking advantage of me. Gosh why do we women or shall I say me put myself ALWAYS in such difficult situations??? I think I am a sick woman to be still with such a man coz besides this sick story there are more horrible stories that i'll share some other day coz it's too long and sad. Thanks all for listening.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, its surely highly possible that she's pregnant ; you're apparently doubtful whether he is the father, but if he cheated on you, it's also entirely possible. What on earth makes you so convinced that it was somehow impossible for him to have impregnated her, simply because at the time he was also with you ? So now you know he lied to you and cheated on you, and there is every reason to expect that he will do so again, and that he will continue to impregnate any woman who is handy ( apparently he's not intelligent enough to hav heard of cotnraception ?) Concentrate on looking after yourself and your child, and expect nothing good from him
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