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07 Jan 2005

Hear Broken Mom
Hello to Cyber Shrink and to all in the forum !
I am a single mom aged 52. How does one get over the holidays...when all the children and grandchildren have to return to their homes ie. the UK, St. Lucia, KZN and another visiting in Beaufort West ? When we said our goodbyes it felt as though a piece of my heart had been ripped out of my body, I could not breath and I felt completely numb. Every room of my home was a memory. This was the first time I had seen my eldest son ( UK) in 5 yrs and met my granddaughter. My eldest daughter and two grandsons KZN decided to settle 7 months ago in KZN . My youngest daughter went to visit her fiances "friends" in Beaufort West. So there I was broken up and on my own.
I know there are people who are far worse off than me who probably dont ever see their children. I was fortunate enough for them to visit.
I am just so terribly torn up in side. How do I get over this ??
I do have many wonderful friends, but they cannot fill that empty feeling !
I hate having to say goodbye ! Is there a book I could read to teach me not to love so much and how to let go.?
Regards
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Ech, Margo, I suspect the holidays are more of a nightmare for most people, than they'd care to admit. You will, of course, get over this. Meanwhile, you can either focus on the sorrow of missing them all now that they've gone home, or on the pleasure it was to have them with you for a time. Have you thought of getting more involved in charities and other such activities, where you will be able to help others, and get involved with a nice group of people ? Your aim ddoesn't need to be an atempt to love less, but maybe to find a different way of loving, not dependent only on their physical presence.
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