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28 Feb 2004

Heart Broken
My girlfriend left me 2 days ago,she said shes confused and needs time to think and 2 weeks ago she totally lost intrest in sex,i know shed never cheat but i read somewhere that it could be that the person doesnt want emotional attachment,we were going to get married and she was the 1 ,now im tottally destroyed and crying all the time and thinking of her she also said that if we were ment to be will get together later on and get married but i know shes just trying to make it better,im very depro and i feel like i wanna die worse feeling in the world,are there ways to get over her and do u think i need to go for some counsilling?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Johan, yes, it does feel dreadful, but of course dying is no solution to anything. Yes, counselling would probably help, and you WILL, with certainty, get over this disappointment, in time, ( and not a very great deal of time ). Part of what is probably making it worse for you is the suddenness with which this situation arose for you ), and the uncertainty. It's always harder to cope before one is sure what one is coping with.
maybe she has greater difficulty in facing commitment that you --- or she --- suspected, until the issue really arose, and maybe then she panicked. Maybe she has some more growing up to do, to be ready for a longer-term relationship. But this isn't a slur on you, and you probably didn't do anything wrong. Nasty disappointments like this do happen, and it takes us some time to get over the loss. A counsellor could help you to both work through this more thoroughly and usefully, and to potentally grow stronger from the experience.
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