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25 Jul 2005

help pls
My ex and I are seeing eachother again and I must say, it is better than before. We are talking more, the sex is excellent, and we understand eachother better. We were staying together before, but now we are living apart and sort of dating like other people. However, he has not asked me to be his g/f and when we go out, he does not hold my hand, but in private he is very affectionate and loving. I dont know what to think of this.

I have asked him if we are getting back together and he says that he is scared of a relationship with me because I hurt him so badly the last time. We have been seeing eachother for about a month and during that time, he said once I said something that reminded him of why he left me. ONCE??? He says that sometimes he wants to get back together and then he doesnt.

This weekend we were together all the time. So now, if he doesnt want to be my b/f how is he going to meet other girls by being with me and vice versa?? He has turned down dates with girls because he is not interested and doesnt have the energy for them and is happy to be with me.

I am so confused. Hope my message makes sense. I need your opinions please.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, if the last breakup was your responsibility, and if he did get hurt in it, it's hardly surprising that he feels cautious about this fresh relationship between you two. Would he possibly be interested in relationship counselling together, so you can both better understand what happened, what went wrong, and whether you can both make it work this time ?
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