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27 Jan 2004

Help re; leaving my husband
Last nite my husb comes in at 11:30PM , honks the hooter so loud as if I did not hear him – and then I knew something is going to happen. He shouts and swears at me, and wanted 2 hit me, bcoz I did not wish him for his b/day. Well that was one of the reasons.
Yes I remembered it, but I was still angry at him bcoz on Saturday he went to buy dog food, and only came on Sunday evening past nine. He never called 2 say he’ll b late/won’t b home; never called the following day 2 say he is ok, he will b home later – instead strolls in and expect the children and me to jump up and greet him! He knows I won’t ask questions, and he never apologised or made up a story on why he did not come home. I would like 2 know what do I do. I have made up my mind that today is the day that I leave him. I know I should go to the police, but if he has not hit me, will they still help me? I really want 2 get out 2day! Please help me.
Thank you.
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01 Jan 0001

JZ, the police might not choose to get involved because, althoug he may have been unreasonably nasty, he seems not to have been violent towards you or to have threatened violence. Could you go and stay with your family for a while ? Clearly, he has a lot of explanations owing to youm ( spending 2 days celebrating his birthday at a dogfood shop ? )
If he threatens any form of violence, report this to the police ( from your family's home ) and consider getting a restraining order from the courts. Nina seems to have the right ideas about how to go about this.
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