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10 Jan 2005

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I would like to know if am i over reacting or insecure.Early last year year i saw messages in my girlfriends phone another guy sent messages telling her how he loves her., then we fought over the messages, then she fell pregnant we have a 1 baby & also this year i saw this guy's message in her phone but this time it was a joke & we also fought over this message.Now i really dont find messages in her phone neither in the received list of calls in her cell-phone.What she told me is that she had an affair with this guy for 3 months and they dropped & she says she never slept with him only thing they do is talking & phoning each other, i really do not belive her.Now this guy is phoning the land line although he knows she's not there i'm the one who's there, i really dont know what this means maybe , they really dropped he wants me to feel jealous but what i dont like it seems as if my girlfriend is not doing anything to stop him calling .I'm really not sure when she says she stopped seeing & phoning him.I checked her phone while she was sleeping there was no messages from that guy .He phoned yersterday night asking her and i beat her up, i'm really afraid to continue beating her up everytime this guy phones .Please help what should i do.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Could it be that this other guy doesn't want to accept that her relationship with him IS really over, and is pestering her ( and you) in the hope of breaking up her current relationship with you ? She should change her phone number and not let this guy know --- and you ought to stop beating her up IMMEDIATELY, or she ought to leave you. See a counsellor, perhaps together
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