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31 Mar 2007

How do I find out his true intentions
I am a single mother with 3 kids. I have to move out of the house I'm renting as my lease will not be renewed. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years has asked me to move closer to where he stays as it will allow us to function better as a family, eg. he can see us everyday, help out with transporting the kids and we can do more activities together. Currently we live an hour's drive apart. I am grateful that he wants us to be more of a family, but my problem is this. I would like him to commit to us as a family thru us getting married. We have a wonderful relationship but I fear that we will always just be at the level we are now, and I need more than that.
How do I approach the subject with him. I just feel that if he has no intention of marrying me one day, I should just look out for my own future and start working towards a future on my own. I wouldn't like to move closer to him, and further from my own family if he will never commit 100%.How do i find out whether he plans on spending the rest of his life
with us or if all he wants is a part time relationship.
Thanks for the advice
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Have you tried simply discussing this with him, and saying what you have said in your message here ? Your point about concern that moving closer to him would be moving further from your own family is a valid one, which he needs to consider --- and his suggestion that he would like to fel more like part of the family and help with family chores, is presumably promising. I don't think anyone else, outside of the pair of you, can tell you what is on his mind or in his heart
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