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14 Aug 2007

how do i get over this
i was physically abused by my ex sister-in-law when i was growing up - my mother approved of that, in fact she suggested that! my sil actually one day follwed me to school and beat me up infront of other pupils ( i was devastated) - when i told my mom - she never uttered a word! i had to carry the humiliation everyday to school. My mother used to beat me up outside our yard - with a broom stick! one day as she was hitting me i tripped over a heater and it blew up - she continued. she stopped when i was a teenager and i was at a point of fighting back - but then the name calling began - she once said that I was a protitute - i didn't know what that was - and when i found out i was puzzled as i was a virgin - but i found no importance in it - as i was a prostitude! - that killed my self esteem in my teenage years! My mother is a divorcee and i think she was depressed and boy it is not easy being brought up by a frustrated mother is not a good thing at all. When she got married, she just wanted to run from the abuse that she encountered from her mother - but she did not break the cycle. I am only important to my mother when she wants money! she lives under my roof but still that's not enough! Now that i am an adult again i got sworn at by my other sister in law and guess what? my mother is again on her side!

This leaves me with questions that i just cannot answer! like:
does my mother love me or what?
why does she choose other people over me?
I have friends and cousins that i get along with very well!
How can my own mother be like this?
she depends on me for everything but still!
I answer her back only because she provokes me and all this has made me to have such anger inside me! i am confused really!

She does not want to take hormone replacement pills, all she wants is to have a boyfriend "companion" but because she does not have one - then my life is hell, as it has always been...
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, obviously your mom and sister-in-law behaved cruelly, disgracefully, and criminally, and you deserve both proper counselling and maybe also to consult a lawyer. There is no possible excuse for what they did. See a counsellor and set yourself free from these horible people, so you can move ahead with your own life. Why are you still communicating with these awful in-laws and this pathetic excuse for a mother ? Leave them behind you
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