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08 Dec 2004

How do one deal with a miscarraige?

I'm a regular visitor to the Gynae doc site, but would like to find out how one deals with a miscarraige emotionally? I work in the retail sector and can't have any time off before the 23rd,

I was 8 weeks pregnant when we discovered that there was no heartbeat, went for tests and stuff and realised the baby had died, I went in for a evacuation last week tuesday and was back at work the Thursday.

I almost had a nerves brakedown last night and have no idea how to cope with this.

The only thing on my mind is getting pregnant again (we were trying for a year before we got pregnant)

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01 Jan 0001

Hi Jessica,
So sorry to hear of your loss, which can be more disturbing and painful than is realized by most people who haven't shared that experience. Although it sounds as if the treatment you received was technically correct, I believe that in EVERY such situation, counselling should be an automatic part of the treatment package.
I'm sure Paris is right about compassionate leave being something that ought to be available ; if it is, then make sure you see a counsellor as well, as simp,y sitting at home feeling bad won't help much. Allow yourself to grieve, and this is also where counselling can help to let the grief be more productive and healing. As the others say, you may fall pregnant again rapidly ; or i may take a little longer, as stress and grief can reduce our fertility temporarily.
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