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06 Apr 2006

How does grief work?
My best friend died in a car accident last week. I was in complete shock, but now, after the funeral, I don't feel anything and my life is going on as always. I don't think about it and I don't cry. When I tell people what happened, it's as if I'm reading from the phone book. I know this is also some sort of coping mechanism, but I just want to know what to expect next? What stages/feelings will I be going through? And when should I start worrying that I'm not coping?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi Christine,
Disturbing as it may be, what you are experiecing is a common and typical aspect of grief and loss, called Denial. As a protective measure, at times, one's mind cuts off the emotional aspects of such events, and we sort of run on autopilot for a while. Despite some quack claims, there are no required stages one goes through on such occasions. Generally, one would gradually emerge from a phase of denial, with feelings gradually re-emerging, and feel the sadness. What you are experiencing is pART of coping. The sadness, when it comes, seems as if it won't be able to end, but in turn, it does. You will be alright, even though for a while you may not feel confident about that
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