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30 Nov 2004

how does one handle this
Hi all,

I am working full time, but want to start working weekends to start my own company. One of the works client also is starting something else. He then asked me to give him my cv so he can see what I can do. He phoned me last week and said that he is interested in me working for him. Yesterday he came to see me to outline the duties he wants me to perform. Then out of the blue he tells me that he is very attracted to me and wants to have an affair with me. He said he knows we are both married, but he cannot help his feelings.

I do not want to do this. My problem is that i have a very soft heart and hate to hurt people. How do I tell him no without hurting him? and how do I work with him? i mean, will it not be uncomfortable, and will he not try his luck eventually?

Please help
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Frankly, I wouldn't trust him at all, as a pal or as a business partner. He is married, and wants you, a married woman to have an affair with him ? And didn't he probably use the excuse of offering you the job, to further his plans for an affair ? And when the affair is over, the job's over ? And what of your plans for your own business ?
Why on earth worry about hurting him ?: Just say NO. If an explanation is needed, say that you'[re happilly maried and don't want any affair, and that you really need to go on with your own plans for your own business venture. Why would you want to work with him ?
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