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31 Jul 2008

how to handle new relationship
I am a 27 year old male.I just recently have to courage to ask a girl out.so i have a girlfriend.my 1st serious one.the thing is i always said if i get a girlfriend she would never complain about NOT GIVEN her any attention cause i am a very loving person.I always want kisses hugs and things like that.now my girlfriend is not really in to it.or she does not tell me.or maybe i am just thinking to much. i just cannot relax.if i dont hear from her i think something is wrong.which i know its not.i dont call her that often cause i dont want to be a nusens.she is studying.she is really a great girl.i constantly give her compliments when i text her. but last time she told me she does not see what i see.am i giving her to much or what..i dont know.i know its my 1st relationship and all but i really like to make it work.and dont want to seem that i dont know what i am doing. so any tips for me.. and then.I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH HER..where to take her i mean.we went dancing.we have seen EVERY movie available.i have NOT been to her house yet.weird actually.How do one suggest that.i dont know.please help!!i am clueless
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds like your distress arises both from being unfamiliar with suh relationships, so far, and to low self-esteem and self-confidence. Her studies are important, and maybe she doesn't really ned to frequent reassurtance you seem to be seeking. You may, overall, be trying too hard.
Excellent response from Maria, as usual ! Focus, as Lolo suggests, on talking with her, and finding out what she wants, rather than giving her generic attention you just assume she will appreciate
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