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21 Jul 2006

How will i make it through the weekend?
Dear CS

I got an unsuspected call from my daughter’s psychiatrist. He said that my daughter is in a semi-coma since this morning. What does it mean?

He said that someone have severely beaten up my kid. The chances that it might be self-inflicted are not being looked past. But some bruises looks like she was pushed around, or bumped into something. Its only her ribs legs and arms. Her face is fine, just the black circled eyes which is deep sunken as well. CS, do you think she might have been sexually abused?

If someone was in fact hurting her, why could she not tell me? I am her mother. Im her friend. Why doesn’t she trust me?

And now, above all, she does not even know me.

One comment was that it might be leukaemia. CS, can this be?

How can I be strong and sleep at night if I know my child don’t eat without keeping it in, and she don’t sleep, just stare into nothing and that she can not even walk alone without help?

How am I going to go through this weekend without having her under my roof?

The visits will be so short and impersonal, how will I get her to know I am the mommy? I am her mommy? How will I get her to make eye contact with me without gazing into thin air?

CS, how?

Answer 471 views

01 Jan 0001

Sorry to hear about this development, Riana, though it fits with my earlier concerns. She sounds as if she has been deeply traumatized by sonmething, and some form of assault, maybe sexual abuse, could be the cause. Is there anyone in the family, any friend with access to her, maybe a teacher or student at school --- anyone who could have had such access to her ? People who are being abused can have various reasons for not telling a mother, including the fact that some are threatened by their abuser, with further damage to themselves, and perhaps to her mother, if she tells anyone at all. its easy to blame yourself, but unlikely that you would have had much chance to notice this --- at least, very fortunately, you noticed the effects this had on her, and took the essential step of getting her into hospital.
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