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10 Dec 2012

Hubby gets cross when I refuse.
My hubby and I went out for five years before we got married and we''ve been married for eight years with two girls age two and six. We are on forties.

When we were dating he wanted us to have sex everyday, I manage to stop him from that habit and we agreed to have it two or three days a week, as I''m working and I really get tiered and we don''t have a maid, I have to bath the kids and make supper.

My worry is, if I refuse to have it he doesn''t greed me the following morning, he wouldn''t talk to me for about a week, is this normal? This behavior is scaring me.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Its sad if he actually sulks the morning after not having sex. He is being childish and petty indeed.
Tell him that frankly, with all the necessary chores each night, you feel too tired to enjoy sex as often as he'd like - but maybe, if he'd help you finish the chores earlier, you'd be in the mood more often, especially as you find it exciting to see a man being strong enough to be helpful round the home.
Mandy's extreme bitterness and warped view on humankind is, fortunately, totally inaccurate. Except for some homosexual affairs, all men who cheat, do so with a very willing woman why blame only the man ?
Maybe seeing a marriage counsellor together would be helpful, as this sort of clash is usually about more than sex. He's not a sex addict at all - very often, in any marriage or relationship, one partner would prefer more, or less, sex in a week than the other. But they negotiate and try to please each other.
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