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01 Dec 2005

Hurt and confused
A year ago, I was totally smitten by a work colleague. The feelings were mutual and we gradually grew closer and closer. Eventually a little birthday kiss on the lip turned into a full blown(sexual) relationship. We are both married.

I am totally in love with my spouse, but I can't seem to get this person out of my mind. I know that what I'm feeling is so wrong and I'm trying to get it out of my system. We see each other everyday at work and this makes it more difficult.

The hurtful part is that when we are alone together, he makes it seem as if I'm his world. Yet, when others are around, he's very cold. I am beating myself up about this - yet I can't get this guy out of my mind.

Please help me.......I don't want to lose my wonderful relationship with my husband.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

What are we supposed to say here ? Infidelity is a bad thing ; office romances are foolish and almost always end in misery ; and adulteryn between married people is a bad thing, too. See a counsellor and stop indulging yourself in fantasies about this sleazt person. You CAN get him out of your mind, its just that so far you don't really seem to want to do so.
Some comments use harsh words, but what you have freelly chosen to do is exactly the situation to which such words usually are applied.
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