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13 Dec 2004

hurtful towards boyfriend
I have had a few bad experiences with exes, was vurbally abused and then raped by 2 but now I have a great boyfriend [9mths].The problem is I keep being really nasty with him, when ever we fight I speak to him like I would have wanted to to the other 2 and I don't know how to control it.
I don't want to loose him,,,please help
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

If you'll check out the archives of this forum, you'll find that this is quite a common reaction to abusive experiences in previous relationships --- in a way, testing him severely to see if he's as nice as he seems --- but of course it's not a wise tactic , as it can drive away really nice guys. See a counsellor to work out the unfortunate hangovers from prior bad experiences, and to free yourself to engage pleasantly in this current relationship
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