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03 Apr 2007

hurting
hi CS

Wana share my story with u cos i hav no 1 else to talk to.Yesterday i went to the mall with my boyfriend he has a baby with some 1 else but hates these people and not once has he been there to see the baby he doesnt even know what the baby looks like.

So we met this girl at the mall thats hes cousins ex girlfriend and she knows my boyfriend when she saw me she called me his ex girlfriends name so i asked whos that then she said im sorry thought u wer hes ex girlfriend and she also asked my boyfriend hows the baby i felt so embarrassed and hurt inside that i just walked away tears just rolled down my face it was like i could feel the pain emotionally and physically.

I dont understand why i felt so hurt inside and how do i deal with these situations.

thanx
dreamgal
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

HE may or may not have any reason to hate "these people " ( presumably he felt a bit differently when he chose to father the child ) but he has no reason whatsoever to hate the child or to neglect it. Don't YOU feel guilty and hurt because he has been behaving immaturely and unfairly towards the child, it's surely not your fault that he does so.
But look after yourself and take srious warning from this --- the way he treats this child makes it far more unlikely that he would treat you, or any child you might have, any better in the long run. Do you really deserve to have a man like this in your life ?
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