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10 Aug 2007

Husband?
I am so hurt by my hubbys actions. We have a 4 month boy and a 3 year old girl. I work a full day and still trying to study. My hubby helps clean the house and does the washing. I just need to maintain and do the ironing. But somedays are just a trainwreck. Getting the kids bathed fed and into bed is an absolute nightmare. Then i have to get myself bathed fed and by then its 9pm i am so tired, i have no energy to study. My hubby is on my back to help out more around the house, to be a wife to him. I am just too tired to be me to me. He starts work at 3pm most days so he has the time and energy to do what needs to be done then when he gets home at 12 he goes straight to bed. I am the one getting up for the baby. I am the one awake at 5am to sort out baby and start the day. My hubby does not speak to me for days if i do something he is not happy about. so on wednesday night i said that i would really try to do more just so that he can speak to me, guess what he said? he said he entertains people all day and does not want to entertain me when he gets home. Am i being too demanding that if i am willing to make the effort why cant he, i get more conversation out my 3 year old than him in a 2 week period. I cant sit down and chat to my hubby about the news or something or nothing. I am desperately hurt that he demands but wont even comprisme. I am thinking of leaving him. What is the point of being married to someone that wont even speak to you. i truely understand why woman go out and have affairs, i am in my right mind to go out and get some conversation
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Its hard to say whether you are too demanding, withou being clear about what you demand, and under what circumstances, but you don't sound unreasonable at all. Why not persuade him to join you in proper marriage counselling, to see how far you can both sort this out, for the sake of both of you, as well as the children.
And affair NEVER ever solves anything and only makes any bad situation worse --- an d they're exhausting, too --- you don't have the time or energy for that !
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