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05 Dec 2005

Husband criticizes the way I dress
My husband often criticizes the way I dress. He would like me to wear tight clothes,short skirts and crop tops. He also thinks it is a good idea to get botox injections when I start looking old. I would rather grow old gracefully to be honest. When I said to him that I wouldn't like to get a face lift or botox he got quite annoyed and said I am always putting down ways of making myself more beautiful. I am afraid he will start looking for other younger women one day who have wear more revealing clothes. I honestly don't think I dress badly at all but I don't feel confortable in revealing clothes. I also go for a very painful full bikini wax as he likes it better this way. I am willing to do this but why can't he stop going on about the way I dress? What can I say to make him respect me more and appreciate me. I know that I am not unattractive and have a fairly nice figure so why does he always expect me to dress so cheap? At the same time he often brings up the past as I have been with a couple of other people before I met him. I can't change the past but I definitely didn't sleep around as he puts it.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

What a pathetically insecure "man" he is ! He should love you for who you are, including whatver wrinkles life and he himself may cause. he doesn't want you to be more beautiful --- but more tarty, so he can show off to other men, who he thinks will envy him if he goes out with the caricature he wants you to make yourself. And how much plastic surgery and botox is he planning for himself ? of course you are atractive, to any normal man, but maybe an adolescent schoolboy still wanting to show off to other schoolboys, and who hasn't learned to be man enough to appreciate a real woman, may feel insecure. Your past before you met him is really none of his business
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