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24 Nov 2005

Husband going overseas...I'll be ALONE!!?
Hey Cs,
I just had a long conversation with my hubby.
He has so much stress currently. It is affecting us relationship abit in the sense of...he is there but not "there" .
I dont understand the problem so much, but there is great havock in his family, who is all in Algeria.
he is making the problem so personal, that he cant think, sleep, work or eat. He talks to me about it, i dont understand at all why its a problem, because its stuff that happend here everyday & its fine......but its a cultural thing mostly.....and if it goes on, their family, who is a respectable family will be an outcast in the Village where they live.
I can see this drives him Crazy....
My passport was stolen about 2 weeks ago, and he wants to go there now to sort things out, hence he must go alone.

WE have NEVER been apart, not even for one night.......we are just like that. Glued to one another & one doesnt do nothing without the other, best buddies & husband & wife ya know?

Cho!, the fear of being without him for two weeks, is so much that i feel i want to drown myself in whiskey right now(and i dont drink at all)

We are so attached to one another, even him doesnt wanna leave me behind, and he is torn between his family and me, but we dont have options....

Its been a loooong time since i had an anxiety attack like this & i have no idea how to deal with it.

I dont know why it scares me like this, but it does.

end of the world-thingy
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01 Jan 0001

Hi Delene,
Sorry to hear about this problem and the end-of-the-world thingy. Maybe, with your own strength, or even a couple of sessions with a counsellor, you may be able to get still stronger from this experience, with the two of you remaining happy and close, but capable of feeling that way even when not together.
I really like Frusty's approach, too, about planning some home changes and a welcome-back event, to keep your mind active and focussed on something other than being alone. And maybe a CBT counsellor now to focus on achieving a feeling of comfort and confidence when alone, would make it all the nicer when he's back with you, too. This can be a greatb opportunity albet uncomfortable at first, to discover your own inner strength.
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