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27 Jan 2004

Husband wont let me have a guy friend. Is he right?
I have a guy friend who is really just a friend but my husband is jealous and wont let me go out for coffee or anything with him. Is he being unfair or am I out of line. This guy is really good looking which I believe is the real problem. Since I got married I have lost most of my friends because Im behind 4 walls all the time. Just lately I have become friends with all my old friends again and this guy is included in the group. What should I do. I dont want to loose him as a friend because we can really talk.
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01 Jan 0001

Connie, isn't an important part of the problem the fact that you're meeting this guy, who your husband doesn't really know, along and without him ? Wouldn't it be better to meet him along with one or more of your other friends, at their homes, and to take your husband with you, when possible ? If there's nothing else going on, let him see that. And if there is anything else going on, then you'd be treating him shabbilly.
Talk with your husband, about how you missed the company of your prevous friends, and want to revive those friendships, not to exclue him ;, and about how you felt shut-in at home, without contact with them.
Isn't it, also, wise when married, to seek both to include your spouse in the existing friendships you have already, and to try to make new, joint friendships you can share ?
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