Is this really a serious question ? Your husband was wrong to stay out till 3 am and came home drunk. But once he had done that, do you really think there is a saint alive who you could then wake at 6 to help with the kids, nag and deliberately irritate, carry on nagging and irritating when he asks you to stop, and NOT expect him to get angry and push you away ? That was an absolutely inevitable reaction. I hope you don't follow the same policy with any local savage dogs, poking sticks at them until they bite you ? The crisis was entirely unnecessary and avoidable.