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18 Jul 2006

hygeine
I have a boyfriend who is 19 and im 22 his really mature for his age although i have some issues with his hygeine and not sure how to confront him without him taking it the wrong way as he does with most things i say and then end up fighting, I only stay at his house on weekends even though he still lives with his wicked step mother and his dad. His step mother is very dirty she doesn clean up at all his little brothers wee on the toilet seat and it just stays like that, his bedding on his bed hasn been washed in ages you can see it and i know he showers once a day but i don't think its enough, as he is a very active person. It has gotten to a stage where i carry a bottle of dettol with me and clean the seat before i sit on the toilet and everything i touch gets dettoled first. Every week i come home and something else goes wrong with me and makes me feel disgusting as i am a very clean person, last week was lice Eg. what do i do please help i really love him.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

If she's really a WICKED stepmother, does he like her ? If not, the very idea that he might be getting like her in any way might be enough for him to revise his habits ? Is there any substitute for calmly and pleasantly talking with him about what is bothering you ? You could imply that you assume he also finds her standards of cleanliness disturbing, and sympathize with him.
But if he chooses to live in such squalor ( and he could keep his own room clean, at least ) and even lice, why would you want to say with such a guy ? And none of that would be a sign of maturity on his part.
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