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13 Aug 2007

I cannot make him happy.
I try to cook his favourite meals, I serve him hand and foot. Later at night I give him tea and biscuits.

I never say no to sex and sometimes even iniciate it. He can come wherever he likes whether I like the place or not, feel degraded or not.

I take him lunch when he is working and I am not. I take out dvd's that he likes.

He says if I stop being a cow he'd be nicer to me and things would change. Then I do my best and swallow when Im upset, yet the first time i am a cow again he uses it to justify he's treatment of me.

He keeps on disrespecting me. He believes he gives me a roof over my head so thats why he needs to do nothing more. He never goes out of his way to do anything nice for me. Some nights he does not even say thank you for the supper i've prepared with so much care.

Nothing I try can get him to make me feel loved, cared for or even just decent, bacic consideration. He will promise to try and let me know when he'll be late but the first time it happens again he does not.

He say's he does not hit me, shout at me so why do I say he treats me badly ?

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01 Jan 0001

I sounds as though this is a really unwholesome relationship, in which you seem to feel you have to try desperaely to make him happy --- and how does he try to make you happy ? You are describing motional abuse, from a boy not man enough to treat a woman as an equal and with respect. Try calling POWA, which helps to advise abused women. he doesn't have to physically hit you in order to hurt you. They can help you to plan to leave safely
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