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09 Dec 2005

I cheated, help
I am the awful cheating spouse!!! In the last two years I cheated on my husband with 4 men. 3 were married and we only had sex - no emotions involved, no strings attached!! WRONG WRONG WRONG I know, still don't know whyi did it. Now number 4 is a single guy, we never had sex, just lots of talking and an occasional kiss and hug. Everyday he sms's me to see how i'm doing, telling me he'll support whatever decision I make re divorce. (Was considering divorce way before got involved with any of them- actually) as long as I can promise him I'll be happy. Feel I'm falling hard for this guy, but is he for real? Anyway, don't want to leave hubby for another man, but only because nothing left to salvage of marriage- he's emotionally unavailable and verbally cruel. On the other hand, if he knew about other guys- he would leave straight away, so what am I still doing here? SHould I take a chance on nr 4? Maybe I don't deserve a good man- seeing as I'm such a BAD BAD BAD person. YEs, I deserve all the ugly names u guys are going to call me, but if anybody out there with some advice, that would also be appreciated.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Come on now, you surely have some idea why you did it ? It wasn't random. It wasn't because there was nothing interesting on TV. And as for any of them, you of course can't promise them that you'll be happy.
Is there any chance of working within mariage counselling, with your husband, to salvage the marriage ? If not, rather work towards a peaceful divorce than further cheating.
You're not a bad person, but a person who has done bad things. You can earn a good man --- we can't guess whether this No. 4 is or is not. But settle your marriage one way or the other, then take your time.
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