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02 Dec 2004

I DID NOT SAY THAT ????
What a strange world we live in----how many times someone will completely mis-understand me and then say that ===I SAID THIS OR THAT ===and i know i have NEVER EVER said this or that.

At one stage it felt like that i was involved in court cases the way i was confronted on things i never said. WHY IS IT THAT PEOPLE LISTEN TO WHAT YOU SAY, MAKE THEIR OWN ASSUMPTIONS THERE-OF TO THE MEANING OF WHAT YOU SAID, JUST TO COME BACK AT A LATER STAGE AND ACCUSE YOU OF SAYING WHAT THEIR ASSUMPTION WAS AND NOT WHAT YOU ACTUALLY SAID, I.S.O. ASKING YOU WHAT YOU ACTUALLY MEANT???

This causes hell of frictions and all i want to know is this ?? HAS ANYONE OUT THERE HAD THIS ---OR RECENTLY HAD SUCH AN EXPERIENCE, OR AM I GOING INSANE??
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I think most people don't dress the body they actually have, but the one they want to imagine that they have ; they design their makeup to suit the face they want, not the one they have --- and in "conversations" they generally hear what they're expecting to hear, positive or negative. And above all, they don't really listen.
WHEN IT MATTERS, and is more than trivial, say the important thing that needs to be said, and maybe repeat it, and check if they understood the gist of it --- or ask them to confirm the essence of it.
And one day, you'll be as concise and as much a nmodel of clarity and charity, as Kernel !
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