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21 Nov 2005

I don't want to lose my little siister!!!
Hi

About 4 years ago my mom passed away from cancer,She left behind 3 sons and two daughters. My youngest sister, who is now 16 years old is the reason for this post. As the rest of her siblings are over the age of 25 now.

After my mom passed away my oldest sister and i where left to look after my younger sister. She stayed with my oldest sister up until last year October, when my younger sister asked to move down to Durban to stay with our father (who had devoiced my mom about 10years ago) at the time of my moms death my oldest sister and where the legal guardian of my little sister. But we decided to let her move to my Father as we believed that she should grow knowing him.

Up until last Sturdy my oldest sister and I where under the impression that everything was going ok with my little sister. Until my Dad phoned me telling me that my little sister wanted to move out of the house and stay with her boyfriend who is 19 or 20. i feel that this is the wrong choice for her to make, as she stills need to finish school and maybe attend college as a good education nowadays is not a grantee to a job but is essential for growing life skills, which a 16teen years does not have. My oldest sister and i tried to speek to her and let her understand that the chice she is making, in our eyes is wrong and will only damge any future she might have.

Any advice as to what i can do, please?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

If she is still 16, and you and your sister are the legal guardians, your wishes probably count most ; the difficulty would be that she is in Durban and you are not. Obviously the idea of moving in with an older bf is daft, Maybe someone ought tom mention to him that sex with an underage girl could be considered statutory rape.
Mike may be right about how critical may be the way in which she is approached and the nature of any discussions with her, taking her own ideas into account.
Would she agree to postpone any such move ( there is nothign whatever urgent about it from any realistic point of view ) until after the Christmas holidays, so that you and your sister can have the time to visit and talk it over with her meet her bf, and see what can be sorted out ?
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