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16 Nov 2004

I feel so dead today
Hi, I am so down today, yesterday was my burthday and I really thought that it would be a special night at home but you know what as usual it went for a ball of shit!!!! my fiance is tired 99% of the time and the other 1 persent she is at work!!! I am giving up on this relationship, how much does one give and keep on giving and have to be satisfied with crums??? Lets understand one thing and this my be to good to believe but here goes, I also work and get a good salery so the house hold is run completely out of my budget, i also run the house hold because she is to tierd. I help the kid with his school work , I cook en clean and when she gets home she can sit down and eat, the house is alway clean and then I look after the house as well know the mans seposed job, I also study and gym so yes she has got nothing to do except to spend her salery. When I ask for some more intemisy she is tiered when I make advances shes to tired I sometimes think that I just dont do it for her anymore and that that is just a excuse not to be part of the relationship. I told her to go see a doc to find out what is going wrong but shes always to buzzy so ja seams she has energy for work but the rest -|- that!!! sorry for the swearing but I just dont know anymore!! I am jabbering so ja, enjoy your day!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I understand your feeling a bit gloomy after a disappointing birthday. Sounds like you could be the sort of husband most woman would really like to find, and as i your wife is being unappreciative and non-participant in all the chores as well as the enjoyments of the home. Talk to her. Why is she finding this job so overwhelmingly tiring ? Most of us are tired after work, but not to the extent she seems to be, and you still manage to do so much more. Are there problems at work she should be dealing with differently ? Is she physically unwell, or maybe Depressed ? If she is, she needs a proper medical / psychological assessment and treatment. If not, and she is merely disinterested, then she should move out and run her own life, rather than leaving all the work and responsibilities to you.
Maybe counselling for both of you should be an option.
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