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05 Apr 2006

I feel so miserable and worthless...
I actually feel like crying but I cant...im at work. I feel like screeming. Worse I wont be able to cry my heart out when I get home bcz my granny is there, the nanny and my kids are there.... I have to play strong all the time. What I hate is that I feel as though my life is worthless...I hate feeling like this seen that Im a Christian and I know God will pull me through it all. I just cant get rid of these feelings. Im usually positive and people come to me fo advice and I always manage to help them...by the Grace of God...but why is it so hard to help myself. I cant find peace within me. I am a university graduate with a job that pays me far too little...so hard to even afford a car for myself. I need one...tried and now a company I have never heard of has just black listed me...I dont know them ... this makes it even harder to find a new desent job. I feel soooo stupid. Been to a couple of interviews and nothing! I feel as if Im stupid, probably I dont give them the right answers..maybe I dont even understand what they are asking me, but always when I get feedback they tell me I was great and there was nothing wrong with me only that someone was much more experienced than I am. But I have this thing that always tells me .... you wont make it through! I am originally patient only this time.... I feel nothing is possible!
Last year my husband lost his job and I had to take care of the whole family all on my own. I have a granny in the eastrand, a brother at tertiary and my own 1year old.Twas hard...but God was there. I cried everyday...but had to be strong always. He found a new job but he earns far too little... When I get paid all my money goes to pay for all my debt. that which accumulated that time my hubby wasnt working and now i cant have any of them up-to-date. i get phone calls and letters all the time....people want their money!! Worse someone has used my ID number to open up a Woolworths account...Im stuck!!!! My whole life is a mess.s.... I dont want people to feel sorry for me as I feel this is all my fault... but I just dont know what is it that I have done wrong!!!

I FEEL SOOOOO MISSERABLE AND DEPRESSED!!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hello m,
Clearly, personal counselling would help you to work your way through this emotional down phase, more rapidly and effectively. I dont understand how a companyh you don't even know could blacklist you job-wise --- how would that work ? And if this is someone who falsely opened a Woolworths acount in your name, then insist that Woolworths investigates this and calls in the police --- this could be an instance of identity theft ; presumably relatively few peopl e have access to your ID number ? And isn't it Woolworths' duty to check and be sure that this is a number the person was entitled to use, rather than assisting people in committing fraud ?
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