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21 Jan 2004

i have a problem with trust
i have found ways to access my boyfriend's emails and his voice mailbox, and while i know it is wrong, i cannot help myself from doing it. i am tempted to ask him to change all his passwords, but that would mean admitting it firstly, and secondly, it doesn't really solve my problem. how do i get over this?
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01 Jan 0001

it sounds as if HE has some good reasons to have problems with trusting you, rather than the other way round, doesn't it ? (a) stop snooping immediately ; (b) maybe have a chat to him about how you or a friend found that someone had been snooping into your voicemail and email, so you've decided it's a good idea to regularly change your passwords, and oesn't he think it'd be a good idea to do likewise, just in case ? ; then (c) consider getting counselling to deal wit the issues of poor self-confidence, maybe excess suspiciousness, that have lead you into the snooping.
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