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08 Oct 2009

I love him
Hi All

I read these posts on H24 almost everyday and I thought I might as well write about the situation I find myself in. I am in love with a man 17 years older than me. I am 25 and he is 42yrs old. He is the most amazing person I have ever met. It took us two months to confess our feelings for each other, after spending so much time together as friends. We would do movies, dinner, theatre etc. He has two sons of which he has full custody of. I am yet to tell my parents about this relationship and I am pretty petrified of how they would react. I would hate to give up on something so wonderful on the other hand I don’ t want to disappoint my parents. What to do?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

What is most signficant, usually, is not the difference in calendar years, but the distance between you in behaviours and interests. It sounds as though you may share similar interests in movies, theatre, and so on, and that helps. Its hard for anyone else to guess how your parents might react to this news, and you know them best. Based on how they have reacted to your other friendships, how do you expect them to react ? At least by taking the initiative to raise the matter with them, calmly, and then give them a chance to meet the guy, you avoid the likelihood that they would eventuially find out anyway, and have the added concern that you had kept this secret from them.
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