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25 Nov 2005

I need some TLC!
The last month has been sooo busy at work that I havent had any quality alone time with my guy. The occasional one or two nights a week ended up in both of us being sleepy and passing out at 9pm already. We usually see each other 1 night a week and 2 nights in the weekend, I only have 2 weekends off in a month, so we usually spend those saturday/sunday days together. Now my last off weekend, he had a fishing competition on the sunday, so we only spent the saturday together. Now my second off weekend for this month we have a work function on saturday day (entertaining some clients - we work for the same company) and Sunday he has organized a round of golf from 12pm onwards. Im resenting him for not making sure he at least leaves sunday so we can spend some alone time as the last couple of friday and saturday nights we had either a farewell party or a birthday party to attend together, which doesnt count for alone quality time!
He thinks im being unfair, help me understand who is being unfrair here? Must I just get a life, am i being to selfish and demanding by being a bit pee'd off for him booking the sunday golf?
I just spoke to him now and said i need some time to think and cool-off.
Who's right, who's wrong??
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Don't we all, Sunny ! ( need TLC, that is !)
I think a real problem these days is that we have unrealistically high expectations for many things such as how much quality time we can simply spend with our pals or loved ones. And there seems to be a much increased expectation for time to be spent exclusively together, and an assumtpion that everything each of you does, ought to be done together. That really can be too much of a good thing.
It's like holidays. When I was young ( back in the last century !) Most people couldn't afford to go away on holiday, and the lucky few that did, got away once in the year. Now many people seem to expect to go away in every school holiday, and every long week, and then some more.
As ... says, nobody's right or wrong here, but your expectations sound different, and that needs negotiation, not treatment.
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