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18 Jul 2006

I really love her its not working out
hi cs
i really love my wife, but seems our marriage is not working out. there lost of pollution in it.
we dont talk as couples are to do to resolve problems. my wife springs out the house everytime disagreements comes up. when comes back is either poepdronk smells sigarette or bought some items and affect her money. then she becomes angry again at some point. because money is gone and obligations look waiting to be paid and she starts finding faults and next fight begins.
she make up her mind on her own on what she wants to buy and on other hand want to control my income. is this fair?
she dont want sit down to discuss what is need to be paid in house. and just does things on her own. then these are unbudgeted for she start complaining and blame me that i am not a man enough, that i am less of a man because she spent on things that we did not plan. i can not feed that bad habit with falling for these insults, i just pay what i know is my responsibility according to the las budget we did 4 months ago before she went ballistic swearing at the budget. she has not proposed any other amendment or negotiated a alternative she just be unrully. i propose we see professional help she refuse. she is saying i am one with a problem. i am one with need for help. but marriage is goes down the drain. help
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds like you both deserve to get together with a mariage counsellor, surely ? It sounds most unfair that she makes unplanned expenditures and then blames you when the budget doesn't work out. Do't let her drag you into a blame game --- it doesn't nmatter whose FAULT it is --- you share a problem and need to work together to solve it. If she wants to insist on believing that the problem is entirely your fault --- then let her start that way, but recognize that counselling is still needed to sort it out together
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